Moving Forward After Trauma

Hey there, beautiful soul! Let’s take a whimsical little journey together, shall we? Today we’re dipping our toes into something a tad serious but fear not! We’ll keep it as light-hearted as a feather dancing in the wind. We are going to chat about trauma - yes, that heavy, unwelcome guest that at times overstays its welcome in our lives. But here’s the twist: we’ll explore how to scoot it politely (or not so politely) out the door, so we can bounce back to our fabulous selves. 🌈

Trauma Limits Our Natural Growth and Curiosity

Ever felt like you’re a hamster on a wheel going round and round but not really getting anywhere? Yep, that’s what trauma does to us. It’s like that annoying pebble in your shoe that doesn’t just stay put, making every step a little more irksome.

Trauma sneaks in and puts these giant, invisible earphones on us, blasting the same old track of fears and doubts so loud that we can’t hear the world calling us to play outside. It dims our sparkle and muffles that inner voice that encourages us to poke our noses into new things, ask questions, and leap into new adventures.

Connect to the Divine Source

Imagine for a moment that life is a massive, buzzing party filled with all kinds of interesting folks (you know, like the universe threw a bash and invited all its starry friends). Trauma, though, makes us forget it’s a party and convinces us we're not even on the guest list. The truth is, we all have this VIP pass straight to the divine source – that magical, sparkly energy that connects all things.

The trick is to stop staring at the closed door (or that person who crashed into us with an 'arrow’) and start looking for that open window that’s letting in all that beautiful moonlight. The divine source is like the ultimate party host who’s always waiting to introduce us to someone new or show us a cool move on the dance floor.

The Cycle of Victimhood - No More Blame Game

Ah, the blame game - a game as old as time, and honestly, about as useful as a chocolate teapot. Blaming others for our woes and misfortunes does about as much for our personal growth as yelling at a thunderstorm for ruining our picnic. Spoiler alert: the storm doesn’t care, and we end up soggy and miserable.

Here’s a thought: What if, instead of hurling accusations at the universe for dealing us a bad hand, we shuffled the deck ourselves? Breaking free from the cycle of victimhood is like deciding to be the DJ of our own life party. Sure, the equipment might be a bit wonky at first, and we might hit a few wrong buttons, but hey, at least we’re choosing our own tunes.

Courage to Look Within

Now, this is where things get a tad spicy – it’s time for a bit of self-reflection (don’t worry, I promise it won’t hurt). Peering into our own hearts and minds requires the bravery of a knight venturing into a dragon’s den. But here’s the secret: the dragon is actually a big softie who loves cuddles.

Looking within helps us understand why we dance to certain tunes and why we keep replaying old songs that don’t make us feel good. It’s about tossing out those scratched records and, perhaps, finding a new genre that makes our soul sing.

“If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it’s fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there’s an arrow in your heart.” - Pema Choedroen

Ever told yourself a story so many times you start to believe it’s the only story you have? “I’m just not lucky in love,” “I’ll never get that dream job,” “I can’t dance.” These stories we tell ourselves are like old, comfy shoes - easy to slip into but frankly, they’ve seen better days, and they kind of stink.

Letting go of these tales is like cleaning out your wardrobe – daunting at first, but oh-so liberating once done. It’s about acknowledging that these stories were part of us but recognizing they don’t define us. We are the authors of our own lives, and guess what? We can start a new chapter anytime we choose.

In conclusion, moving forward after trauma is about changing the music, learning a few new dance moves, and maybe, just maybe, finding the courage to sing our own song, loud and proud. So, to all you lovely humans out there, shake off those old stories, embrace your inner sparkle, and let’s boogie our way to a brighter, lighter future together!

And remember, in the grand party of life, the only person who decides when you leave the dance floor is you. So dance like nobody’s watching, sing like nobody’s listening, and live like it’s your very own cosmic fiesta. 🌟